Updated: Mar 22
Recently, going to therapy has become somewhat of a norm in society and this might lead you to wonder “should I go to therapy?”
Therapy isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution. There are some serious things to consider before seeking out therapy but after reading this blog you will feel confident that therapy is for you.
Does therapy work for everyone?
So, before you consider seeking out a therapist, you might be wondering if therapy would even work for you. Answering this question is a valuable step to starting therapy because therapy can be a serious investment.
First, you need to answer these two questions:
Why would therapy not work for me?
Why would therapy work for me?
This is important because sometimes we ask ourselves good questions but we never bother to actually answer them. Now, I don’t expect you to feel much clearer after answering these questions, but it’s a step in the right direction. Answering these two questions likely brought up expectations and doubts you have regarding therapy.
Some examples of expectations and doubts about therapy could look like:
It would be nice to talk to someone who listens
Why would I pay someone to just listen to me talk?
How could they even help me when they don’t know me?
They might help me gain perspective
I could start making changes in my life
Now, let’s look at what really happens when you go to therapy.
Do you need a reason to start seeing a therapist?
What do you picture when you think of someone going to therapy? You might picture someone crying, having a crisis or going through a traumatic life event. As a therapist, I can tell you that what you see on T.V. or in the movies isn’t a very accurate reflection of what therapy looks like or the people who seek out therapy. Yes, there are individuals who seek out therapy in a crisis, because of trauma and mental health. However, there are also many people who seek out therapy as a preventative measure. This means people do seek out therapy to talk to someone when there isn’t a significant trauma, stressor or mental health-related issue present.
Here are some reasons someone might start therapy:
Leaving a job
To have a space separate from friends and family
Feelings of isolation
To feel supported
Something they wanted to try out
No reason, but want to explore anyways
How to start seeing a therapist
Hopefully, you are feeling a little more comfortable with the idea of starting therapy. So, how do you start seeing a therapist? First, it’s important to know what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you looking for the classic therapist portrayed on T.V. who just listens to you vent? Are you looking for someone to teach you some new coping tools? Are you looking for someone who can challenge some of your unhealthy core beliefs? What about personality? Are you looking for someone nurturing, serious, casual?
Once you have an idea of what kind of therapist would be a good fit for you, you are ready to start searching. You can search online for a therapist near you or on an online therapy directory such as Psychology Today.
Now pick your top 5 therapists and set up a consultation with all of them. Therapy consultations are typically free and allow you to get an idea of if the therapist would be a good fit for you. Naturally, some therapists won’t get back to you and this is normal - although very unfortunate.
How much does therapy cost?
Remember when I said therapy is an investment? Therapy takes time and money and often this aspect of therapy is the hardest for some people. It’s important to acknowledge that you are paying for a professional service, insurance can cover a portion of your fees and therapy rates vary.
Do not choose a therapist based on their session fee. It is important to choose a therapist based on your presenting problem and how good of a fit they would be for you. When you choose a therapist based on their fee, you are choosing someone who might not actually be the best fit for you so why pay for a bad match.
Paying for the right therapist might mean that you have to see them less frequently for them to be affordable for you. Some therapists have sliding-scale pricing which means that if you are low income they might be able to reduce their fee.
Online therapy is becoming quite popular and for very good reasons! Online therapy allows you to have easier access to therapy, sometimes lower fees, comfortability and less stress regarding the whole process.
For some, online therapy allows individuals to be more honest and reflective in therapy. Being in your own environment allows you to be more present and “compartmentalize” therapy less. Often, people will go to their therapist's office to “feel better” for an hour and come home like nothing happened. I am guilty of this! I used to treat therapy like an ‘event’ rather than a space for me to make changes and reflect.
Here's another bonus of online therapy… you have a bigger pool of therapists to choose from! Now you do not have to settle for a therapist in your own town or city and you can look for someone further away who might be a better fit for you.
What to do next!
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